Okay, this is sure to be the most controversial post I ever do, but it is something that has bothered me for sometime. I was hesitant to post it for fear of offending others or ruffling feathers, but I also realize it is my blog and my opinion. On one hand, I am very opinionated, but I often fear sharing my opinions so I usually just keep them to myself. Everyone is, of course, welcome to disagree. That is part of what makes this country beautiful- is that we are aloud to have different opinions.
I do not believe it is okay to practice homosexuality. I believe it is deeply wrong. According to the world today, I am intolerant because I don't think it is okay to live this "alternative lifestyle." I am entitled to this opinion and that alone does not make me intolerant. We are aloud to disagree without being intolerant. Dictionary.com defines intolerance as "...unwillingness or refusal to tolerate or respect contrary opinions or beliefs, persons of different races or backgrounds, etc." Simply disagreeing is not intolerance. Intolerance is when you mistreat, or shun people for what they believe- or, like the definition above says, disrespect their opinion.
Before I ramble any farther, let me state my beliefs on homosexuality so I am clear.
1) I believe it is wrong to have sexual relations before marriage- regardless of sexual orientation. If I don't think it is okay to have sex before marriage, why would I believe it is okay just because the partners are the same sex?
2) I do not think that homosexuals should have a right to marry. I believe God intended marriage to be between a man and a women for several intended purposes. (See The Family Proclamation Here) It is my responsibility to teach the values I believe to my children. Therefore, I have a right to vote on how marriage should be defined. Of course, those who are homosexual also have a right to vote on this as well. That is the beauty of being an American- we can all stand up for our beliefs, no matter what they are.
3) I believe that some become homosexual by choice. I also acknowledge it is quite likely that some are born with homosexual tendencies. I do no believe that makes it okay to practice homosexuality. This may not be exactly the same thing, but just as an example: People are sometimes born with tendencies toward alcoholism or other behaviors. That doesn't make it okay to drink yourself to oblivion or to engage in harmful behaviors just because you were born that way.
4) So, should homosexuals then just deny their feelings and marry heterosexually? Heck no! This will just cause unhappiness and inevitable heartbreak down the road. I suppose this could mean that someone who is truly homosexual, but believed the way I do and wants to return to Heavenly Father may have to go through life without a sexual partner. I could not imagine how hard this would be. But, for someone determined to do the will of God, it would be possible with His help. And, to those who prevail, they would be rewarded in Heaven in ways we can never imagine. If we have an eternal perspective, we will see that Earthly pleasures really shouldn't matter, because our Eternity is much longer than the blip in time we are here on Earth. We are all given struggles and challenges to deal with here on Earth. For a homosexual, this is theirs. Lord knows I have my own lifelong challenges. Basically, what I am saying is- it is not a sin to be a homosexual- it is a sin to practice it.
I am not old fashioned or intolerant because I do not think it is okay to practice "alternative lifestyles." I am sick of the modern world telling me I am close minded.
I am entitled to my opinion.
Someone who is intolerant would be someone who shunned a homosexual, or wouldn't deal with them because they chose to live that lifestyle. Someone who would ridicule them and treat them badly. It is important for everyone to understand that homosexuals are normal people and deserve to live their lives as they wish, just as we want to live our lives as we wish. There is no reason to not be friends/work with/ love someone who is homosexual. Aaron has a few friends who live this way (from the internet VW group he hangs with) and they are wonderful, kind, thoughtful people who are always welcome in my home. For example- just as I would not judge and would still welcome someone who chose to have sex before marriage (see reason 1), I am the same with homosexuals. They have a right to live how they want without being judged. I am simply allowed to have my own beliefs. Despite what I believe, it would not be okay for me to go telling them that I think they are wrong, that they should stop, and that they are bad people (because the really are NOT). Just like others shouldn't tell any of us what to believe. Heavenly Father loves us all and so expects us to love everyone as well.
There are certainly a lot of people who don't agree with our religion. They are not intolerant- just feel differently. Those who are intolerant are those who won't associate with "Mormons" or try to tear them down.
Anyway, I hope this made sense. I just felt the need to write about it and express my thoughts. You are welcome to disagree and I won't think any different of you, just as I hope any one reading this will not feel differently about me if you disagree. I welcome any thoughts anyone wants to give.
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